I was recently interviewed by Gaby Deimeke who's putting together a panel called Badass Women ATX, which is a sequel to the series she did in New York (#badasswomennyc).
Her first question was: What were some of the obstacles you had to overcome while building your business?
My answer: The main obstacle I had to overcome was the fear of being seen.
I'm sharing this because I know this is a big issue for women looking to expand into the next version of who they know deep inside they came here to be.
See, my comfort zone was in hiding and staying small. I felt safe there and I had to do a lot of internal work to "expose" my work.
Exposing my work equaled exposing myself and this was a very vulnerable space.
I especially worried way too much about what people who knew me would think. As I grew out of my skin, the imposter syndrome came full swing: I would hear all the people I knew from high school, my family, etc. say in unison: "WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE!?"
Here is how I overcame this particular issue:
Every time I put myself out there (social media, etc.), I leaned into the discomfort, i.e. I allowed myself to feel it instead of pushing it away
I reprogrammed my beliefs (using specific tools I use with my clients)
I moved through the discomfort and realized it wasn't so bad after all
With this new awareness, I grew beyond the said limitation into a new and more authentic version of myself
Then I came across a new layer of discomfort... haha!
If you've done a little bit of personal work, you will know that as you grow into the full version of who you are and let go of the layers of programming and imprinting unknowingly engrained by family, culture and society, you will also come across more layers of limitations that will need to be cleared.
It's not a one-time action, it is a process and a practice.
>> If you avoid the discomfort at all cost, not only will you not be ready when it inevitably comes your way, it will actually come like a gigantic wave crushing the little self-esteem you had built up to that point. In that space, you don’t learn anything and there is no potential for growth.
>> Life will become less of a struggle when you invite discomfort instead of avoiding it. If you expect it and learn/develop the tools that will help you move *through* it, then you'll be ready to grow into the next empowered version of who you've come here to be.